nitram17 wrote:

BLACK LAB wrote:

nitram17 wrote:

Back lab is a dog .dont have to elaborate do i! Remember Hep c .HIV,Genital warts and Herpes cannot be cured with a liberal dose of iron brew!

The poor guy is more likely to catch these horrible diseases in a drunken unprotected encounter from yer average burd on a saturday night . Indeed the last time I recall any of my pals catching anything was after a weekend out in your beloved toon .
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Very few of the models you get to go with on the sites I mentioned will have these diseases and they would always insist that you wear yer seat belt before climbing in the driving seat . ( I used the car reference there to try and illustrate my meaning just for your benefit of reminding me that this is a car forum )

I think your wrong black lab ...its a numbers game ,.....the non pro with loose morals who has sex with a different bloke every night well thats 7x1 ..the average tom will have sex with at least five blokes per day and some much more you do the math ...plus the clients will have consorted with other toms ...its a diseased pool your swimming in fella ..you might be ok once or twice but to promote it as a life choice is wrong imho .,,,,,,.mainly on health grounds but who wants to have sex with a women who despises you and is faking it !

Definitely a numbers game alright - in that any red blooded male should get as many burds as he can - monogamy is a guilt trip invented by women . on the subject of the quality of burds on the sites i mentioned - we are not talking about auld Maggie from the front of Kings Cross station with jag marks on her legs . I'm talking about pure goddess looking burds on they sites -the stunning models on adult work would insist on you wearing a seat belt inside their lovely cabin . the Saturday night Jeremy Kyle show boilers that you can easily pick up through beer tinted goggles are more likely not mind if you dont saddle up . they either dont care or are hunting a pregnancy .
The guy clearly has confidence issues - he could use adult work or cracker as a small stepping stone to gaining his cinfidence back and finding his ideal woman out there after he is back on form .
He should get with a women quick before he has to join the wheel barrow forum next .  2006 DEFENDER 90 TD5 CSW XS
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nitram17 wrote:

Each to their own fella .......but to me no matter how you dress it up yours is a sad cynical world that you live in that objectifies women and equates sex as a the same as buying a bag of sugar! I dont get your world black lab I want to have sex with a woman who wants to have sex with me and not because I have saved up my greenshield stamps for a looker who cannot wait for me to get off her and thinks im a creep!

You've obviously no been with many fun lookers . They love it and they love being in control of their lifes by enjoying the rewards that their good looks can achieve for them - theres' no shame in them .There's nothing creepy about it either . Yer not kerb crawling or running about in a dirty mac looking for Old Saggy Aggie smokin a Faggie ( Unless yer name is Wayne Rooney ) . They're not being forced into it by some mad eastern european human trafficker either .
Its actually quite a buzz when you pick a cracker and if your a handsome chap then its great to see their faces light up cos they know they're not going to be rattled from some big fat chap with stinky kegs . Once you get to know a few crackers they very often give you freebies anyway once they realise yer a genuine guy with maybe not alot of time to spare on women - it all becomes quite amicable and friendly . You must remember that many of these burds are super super fit looking . Not a single tit hanging the wrong way .
Wis there anything particularly seedy that you found about the film Pretty Woman which starred Richard Gere and Julia Roberts ? I know it got a bit soppy at the end but in reality he done much the same .
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Bluest wrote:

What a thoroughly depressing thread. If these are folk’s real views and not trolling I’m stunned and grateful for my lot in life. It’s a sad state of affairs if a relationship can’t get beyond a transactional one where sex is the only thing worth having.

OP - as has been said, don’t focus on finding a partner. Focus on doing stuff you enjoy and you’ll be in with a good chance of getting a result. It’s important whoever you land up with is a friend too. Oh, and you aren’t old. I know plenty who didn’t settle down to later than you.

lambert.the.farmer wrote:

Bluest wrote:

What a thoroughly depressing thread. If these are folk’s real views and not trolling I’m stunned and grateful for my lot in life. It’s a sad state of affairs if a relationship can’t get beyond a transactional one where sex is the only thing worth having.

OP - as has been said, don’t focus on finding a partner. Focus on doing stuff you enjoy and you’ll be in with a good chance of getting a result. It’s important whoever you land up with is a friend too. Oh, and you aren’t old. I know plenty who didn’t settle down to later than you.

Of course relationships are transactional and yes the primary currency is sex especially in the early stages ok as a relationship matures the currency shifts more towards goods and less services but it is still a transaction. Call it what you want but if you suddenly and deliberately stopped paying for the house as an example your loving relationship would soon be in serious trouble. Its how it is.

22900013A wrote:

You can't approach anyone on Tinder. You can only contact anyone if they "match" with you.

Since you are getting some appalling advice, i'll elaborate.

Approach is about closing distance right?

In dating there are all sorts of approaches but what i'm talking about above is being approachable, you have to understand that the other half of the equation is putting just as much on the line as you:

You might not turn up
You might be 10 years older than you say
Put 5 stone on since the photos in your profile
You might be a total arsehole

You need to provide reassurance that the above isn't the case, while trusting that she is telling you is true and that starts with your profile.

Keep your interests broad, you want to let them know what you like but you don't want to give them every bit of detail or there's not much to talk about is there?

There's no harm is letting them know what you like in a woman, it's a good way to reassure someone that your what they're after right?

Move quickly, if you like the sound of someone don't spend ages talking to them over the internet, get their number and arrange a date. And I would say just meeting up for a drink for the first one, no hot air balloon rides over the Andes!

You can apply this to Tinder and any dating site

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BLACK LAB wrote:

nitram17 wrote:

Each to their own fella .......but to me no matter how you dress it up yours is a sad cynical world that you live in that objectifies women and equates sex as a the same as buying a bag of sugar! I dont get your world black lab I want to have sex with a woman who wants to have sex with me and not because I have saved up my greenshield stamps for a looker who cannot wait for me to get off her and thinks im a creep!

You've obviously no been with many fun lookers . They love it and they love being in control of their lifes by enjoying the rewards that their good looks can achieve for them - theres' no shame in them .There's nothing creepy about it either . Yer not kerb crawling or running about in a dirty mac looking for Old Saggy Aggie smokin a Faggie ( Unless yer name is Wayne Rooney ) . They're not being forced into it by some mad eastern european human trafficker either .
Its actually quite a buzz when you pick a cracker and if your a handsome chap then its great to see their faces light up cos they know they're not going to be rattled from some big fat chap with stinky kegs . Once you get to know a few crackers they very often give you freebies anyway once they realise yer a genuine guy with maybe not alot of time to spare on women - it all becomes quite amicable and friendly . You must remember that many of these burds are super super fit looking . Not a single tit hanging the wrong way .
Wis there anything particularly seedy that you found about the film Pretty Woman which starred Richard Gere and Julia Roberts ? I know it got a bit soppy at the end but in reality he done much the same .
For guys with busy work and social schedules these sites offer a convenient way to still maintain your red blood but save alot of the hassle that other men seem to thrive to aspire towards .