22900013A wrote:

Well reading these replies has given me a few laughs if nothing else.

I'm not quite cynical enough yet to go down the adult work type route, and as a Yorkshireman I'd consider it a waste of money anyway.

I find the trouble with dating sites is that now they have all followed the tinder "swipe" model, I'm at a serious disadvantage. As it is now geared more towards looks, I suspect nobody ever actually reads the profiles to get an idea of the personality. Indeed, many of them say very little anyway. I'm sure if I was good-looking I would have no problems. I see many now specify they will only date men six feet tall or more, at five eight that is a bit of a kick in the guts. Not that I could even be friends with someone so shallow anyway.

My last relationship was seven years, so reasonable to say I have been out of the loop for a long time and I have no idea how to meet people. Living in a little village no doubt doesn't help.

Sadly at 36 I am also in that age where there are very few single women of the right age. Right now everyone I was at school with for example is either having, or had, kids, is married or settled. Divorces etc will come in another 15-20 years or so, people in there twenties are chopping and changing all the time. So...not a good situation. The few single women I have encountered of the right age are either not interested or are crazy.

I keep wondering if any women will come along to show they are not all evil harpies, especially after the last one left me on Christmas eve and was pregnant by her lover within weeks of leaving me. Oh, plus she was robbing me for years.

I'm not sure what to do really.

I cannot believe you are placing yourself on a scrap heap at 36 years old man ? Banish your misplaced morals and see it as Time to re grow your plums and get fired into some hot chicks from the sites I mentioned . That will give you yer mojo back and set you on yer way to becoming a man again . It will give you back yer confidence and give you that wee boost again that will maybe see you able to go and chat up burds in bars etc . Dont let bad women put you off all women - Just see them for what they are and try to get out and enjoy yerself .
With regards to yer ex and her lover who got her pregnant ? The lover is the daft guy who ended up getting her pregnant - You got off lightly pal . Away out and enjoy yerself like James Bond .  2006 DEFENDER 90 TD5 CSW XS
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BLACK LAB wrote:

gilarion wrote:

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Adult Work . com and cracker .com is a great site to get women . Some of them are easily 10 out of 10 first class looking . Just order them out to your house the same way you order a any other takeaway -give them the cash - do the business and then they go away and leave you in perfect peace . Its a great way to get the fun out of women but never have to actually sit and listen to any of their nagging and rubbish that they talk .

And wow! Never done that, 10 out of 10% women who you say you can take home and then discard as a takeaway and then you believe these females can regard themselves as fist class, Is more shocking. Perhaps I have been lucky or possibly it’s just the way I treat women, intelligent caring helpful.
You only get out what you put in, and my wife has given me so much I feel I would do anything foe, however but I have never thought of her as a takeout and I will never do so

I've seen the state of some of the women guys end up settled down with and its shocking really . They maybe looked ok when they were younger but once they get older they look haggared and many of them constantly nag the face off their guys . With the adult work and cracker . com sites you can always keep yourself updated with the latest model for a couple of hundred quid- then a wee kiss on the cheek as they leave ? No rules saying that you only need to get one burd either as they very often bring another burd to join in the fun . No emotional blackmail or jealousy with them .
The burds on these sites are never likely to try and get themselves pregnant or trap you . They will never nag the face off you either - all good fun really . It lets a guy concentrate on more important things like his dogs, cars , fishing , shooting etc . He gets to keep all of his money to himself as well .
The other tame dating sites out there offer no guarantee of jiggy jiggy - You need to engage in small talk which is a waste of time where you could be doing other better stuff to suit yourself . Then you may have to take them out to boring dinner , movies , jump through hoops to achieve the same end result that you could have achieved so easily by calling a burd direct from adult work or cracker .
I really dont see why men put themselves under such emotional burden nowadays by being shackled to women especially some of them who look like battered old hags . No other animal in the animal kingdom would put himself through the stuff I see men putting themselves through .
In this day of modern internet technology the ball is back in the mans court where he can simply pick and choose his own destiny . Its a buyers market nowadays .

22900013A wrote:

1) My last relationship was seven years, so reasonable to say I have been out of the loop for a long time and I have no idea how to meet people. Living in a little village no doubt doesn't help.

2) Sadly at 36 I am also in that age where there are very few single women of the right age. Right now everyone I was at school with for example is either having, or had, kids, is married or settled. Divorces etc will come in another 15-20 years or so, people in there twenties are chopping and changing all the time. So...not a good situation. The few single women I have encountered of the right age are either not interested or are crazy.

3) I keep wondering if any women will come along to show they are not all evil harpies, especially after the last one left me on Christmas eve and was pregnant by her lover within weeks of leaving me. Oh, plus she was robbing me for years.

4) I'm not sure what to do really.

1) Similar here, I personally wouldn't bother with locals around the corner I'm in the same position.
Broaden your horizons beyond the village.
I find most of them here are so stuck up, I don't even give them the time of day.
Sad I know, but true but most locals here are the same anyway.
I know if they so much as thought you were interested in them in that way they would take glee in thinking that and knocking you back deliberately. I wouldn't give them the satisfaction.

2) Sounds about right and very common.
But, remember it only takes one and not everyone is the same. Just the majority.
There is no doubt somone out there feeling exactly the same as you.
Make exception of avoiding and Femminist King Arthur pendragon worshiper types though.

3) She sounds like she was just no good, for you or to you to me.
Sounds as if you are best off, pity as you obviously did think a lot of her but she sounds like a user.
There are lots out there, just give them the boot I feel you suspect they are using you keep money out of things and you soon tell.

4) Don't give up, get out and about you have the Defender after all.

5) I will reserve comment on a few posts here,  No Guts, No Glory.
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GREENI wrote:

You're doomed if you think turning to a Defender forum for help will solve your woes

Just keep your head up and smile politely at all ladies. One will be curious enough to want to know why.

BLACK LAB wrote:

I cannot believe you are placing yourself on a scrap heap at 36 years old man ?

nitram17 wrote:

Back lab is a dog .dont have to elaborate do i! Remember Hep c .HIV,Genital warts and Herpes cannot be cured with a liberal dose of iron brew!

The poor guy is more likely to catch these horrible diseases in a drunken unprotected encounter from yer average burd on a saturday night . Indeed the last time I recall any of my pals catching anything was after a weekend out in your beloved toon .
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Very few of the models you get to go with on the sites I mentioned will have these diseases and they would always insist that you wear yer seat belt before climbing in the driving seat . ( I used the car reference there to try and illustrate my meaning just for your benefit of reminding me that this is a car forum )  2006 DEFENDER 90 TD5 CSW XS
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simon67 wrote:

I still like Screwfix being a dating agency

PS Get a dog, walk it regularly, you will meet women
100% guaranteed with a husky

You might be lucky, anyway good luck

A dog is a great way of breaking the ice with people (female and male), but I wouldn't recommend getting one for this reason only. They are a hell of a bind, costs can be higher than Defender ownership and they can't be sent back when either a) they don't have the desired effect b) they do have the desired effect and stop you then from going out / going on holiday.

Good luck in the search

22900013A wrote:

My logic is that for me to have kids soon I need to meet someone pretty sharpish, spend a year or so getting to know them/dating/whatever, then get a place together, then have kids - so 2-3 years which would make me 38 at best. She is therefor going to need to be really no more than about 30-32 now, which in all seriousness is almost a generational difference. I work with lads about that age and their worldview is totally alien to me. Whist I tick all the boxes in terms of job, income, personality etc they are not exactly lining up to give me a chance.

22900013A wrote:

GREENI wrote:

You're doomed if you think turning to a Defender forum for help will solve your woes

Just keep your head up and smile politely at all ladies. One will be curious enough to want to know why.

I don't see any relevance to it being a Landrover site, or anything else - merely a decent place to get views from a fairly wide spectrum of people on an important issue.

I can't say I'm surprised we have not had any female respondents yet...!

My point being....
We as a Defender owners think the following traits are attractive....
Being:

Overweight
Overpriced
Leaky
Noisy
Slow
Unreliable
Easily stolen

But it's okay...shower them with shiny trinkets and they'll blossom into beautiful objects.

BLACK LAB wrote:

nitram17 wrote:

Back lab is a dog .dont have to elaborate do i! Remember Hep c .HIV,Genital warts and Herpes cannot be cured with a liberal dose of iron brew!

The poor guy is more likely to catch these horrible diseases in a drunken unprotected encounter from yer average burd on a saturday night . Indeed the last time I recall any of my pals catching anything was after a weekend out in your beloved toon .
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Very few of the models you get to go with on the sites I mentioned will have these diseases and they would always insist that you wear yer seat belt before climbing in the driving seat . ( I used the car reference there to try and illustrate my meaning just for your benefit of reminding me that this is a car forum )