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| Mossberg Member Since: 29 Feb 2020 Location: Lancs Posts: 553   
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Both rude and sad to be honest.
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7th Jun 2023 1:36pm |
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| Leamreject Member Since: 19 Dec 2020 Location: Middle Earth - Leamington Spa Posts: 970  
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Spend your valuable time on something more deserving  Ride like you stole it!!
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7th Jun 2023 1:54pm |
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| the_lincs_landies Member Since: 29 May 2023 Location: Boston, Lincs Posts: 230
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Definitely rude.
And although it shouldn't have a bearing on things, if you'd leant/given a 'considerable' amount of money then you'd think they would extend the courtesy of some manners/company to show their gratitude. |
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7th Jun 2023 2:48pm |
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| TexasRover Member Since: 24 Nov 2022 Location: Paris Posts: 1089  
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Are you sure there still is a partner?
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7th Jun 2023 4:36pm |
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| Procta Member Since: 03 Dec 2016 Location: Sunderland Posts: 5201
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My parents have had this in the past, we went down to visit my uncle and auntie, on my dads side of things. We took our caravan down and stayed on their farm, it was my aunties 50th at the time. Anyway, they had their daughter staying over, at the same time, which is fair enough. But on a arrival we got a bit of a frosty reception, and it was like there is a space park up and hook up. The party was ok mind, that was it. We did go around a local city while we were down there, and mam decided this would be the final time we would visit, due to how frosty things were, after the party. Anyway during that time up till 2018. They would do the odd surprise visits, and we would greet them with all the love etc as we would normally do. They sort of made of me, but nothing much of my sister, never really fussed her at all, even though she was my step dads bio daughter. Anyway we heard northing at all from them in 2019, me and my dad were in the area, picking up my defender. But my dad wasn't keen on making a visit, he just wanted to get back home. So it was a pick up and go. Then one night in February 2021, about 10 pm, my dad gets a call, from my auntie that my uncle had passed away. She gave some details etc, but that was about as far it went. My dads sister, who my dad doesn't get a long with, had been down there a few times. But not one of them, had the bottle. to ring my dad, and tell him, that my uncle was unwell at the time. We would have made it our business, to visit him back in 2019. After my uncle was buried, my auntie bells us, to ask if we were ok, after the very strong winds we had. It had turned out, that there had been one mega barney, at my uncles funeral, with my my auntie and my dads sister and her daughters. Over funeral and family arrangements etc, to the point they had cut all ties. My dad to this very day doesn't even know where my uncle is buried, all he got was a card, with a photo of my uncle from the wake, posted threw the door. I have found since i have grown up, that families, can cause more trouble or be more trouble than they are worth knowing. You cannot trust them at all, but all want to be around you, if they want something. Yet i have seen some families, that are so close. They will go to the moon and beyond with each other. Its true what they say, you can pick your pals, but not your family. Defender TD5 90 ---/--- Peugeot 306 HDI hatch back
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7th Jun 2023 7:51pm |
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| Procta Member Since: 03 Dec 2016 Location: Sunderland Posts: 5201
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That's the thanks you get sadly. Defender TD5 90 ---/--- Peugeot 306 HDI hatch back Success is 90% Inspiration and 4 minutes Preparation # you can make it! |
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7th Jun 2023 7:52pm |
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| spudfan Member Since: 10 Sep 2007 Location: Co Donegal Posts: 4717 
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You have a daughter with special needs and your mother will not have anything to do with the child, did not even go to the christening. Daughter is 27, mother only seen her three times, my efforts. Yeah life can throw up some odd balls. But guess what, I see my lovely daughter every day but I cannot remember what my mother looks like. The choice had to made and my daughter won. No regrets. 1982 88" 2.25 diesel
1992 110 200tdi csw -Zikali 2008 110 2.4 tdci csw-Zulu 2011 110 2.4 tdci csw-Masai |
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8th Jun 2023 10:25am |
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| diesel_jim Member Since: 13 Oct 2008 Location: hiding Posts: 6102 
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+1 to that mate!! |
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8th Jun 2023 2:03pm |
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| Rashers Member Since: 21 Jun 2015 Location: Norfolk Posts: 3521 
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How narrow minded is that? I can understand a family argument splitting a family up, but that is just beyond belief? How sad for you and your daughters, spud fan  |
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8th Jun 2023 8:19pm |
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| Screbble Member Since: 26 Apr 2015 Location: Lancashire Posts: 2108 
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All sounds familiar, and whilst that doesn’t make it right, it shows that you’re not in your own.
What’s that saying, you can choose your friends but… Families are strange things that get even stranger when they are extended by marriage etc. Stick to paying attention to those that matter, and Defenders of course. |
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9th Jun 2023 7:34am |
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| the_lincs_landies Member Since: 29 May 2023 Location: Boston, Lincs Posts: 230
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As they saying goes "you can't chose your family".
As another example of a-hole behaviour:- My Grandad and my Aunt fell out as my cousins were getting in to drugs, he didn't condone this and so told her that if they didn't buck up their ideas he would take them out of his will (as he wasn't having his inheritance blown on drugs!). She then kicked off that if he did that she would have nothing to with him - being stubborn, he stood his ground (and if you knew my aunt, you would back him, she's no real loss). Fast forward a few years to May this year - my grandads health has been deteriorating, on 1st May he sadly passes away. My cousin (the 1 out of 3 of my Aunts sons that doesn't do drugs, the one "good egg") tells his mum the news... her response was "Its about bloody time he went. I suppose I best get to the Solicitors" - clearly intending to contest the contents of his will. No remorse, no sadness at the loss of her father, just pound signs in her eyes. |
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9th Jun 2023 8:06am |
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| windy81 Member Since: 14 Mar 2018 Location: North Wales Posts: 311  
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She could be suffering an illness or something and doesn't want to see anyone. Who knows ?
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9th Jun 2023 10:50am |
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| Procta Member Since: 03 Dec 2016 Location: Sunderland Posts: 5201
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You do get the crocodile tears, i have seen that twice and i warned my mate about it too. When he lost his Grandparents and Dad. When my grand dad went, the family was sniffing around for money, but he had nothing, but two rings, that my nana gave me a long with a watch which was the last thing she ever gave me. They did  all for her, when she needed the care, Sadly she passed a few years later, they got nothing. My auntie paid for her funeral, out of guilt. But what wages my nana had saved up, my auntie said its yours, to my mam. So my nana would rest easy for that one, as she was worried sick, about them getting their hands on her money. My uncle did all for them so he got all, along with the rest of my family. I managed to help get my nanas savings to my mam, by helping daft a letter up to the place who had her savings. My mam got a nice little pot, and i told her not to touch it.  Defender TD5 90 ---/--- Peugeot 306 HDI hatch back
Success is 90% Inspiration and 4 minutes Preparation # you can make it! |
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10th Jun 2023 1:46am |
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| Procta Member Since: 03 Dec 2016 Location: Sunderland Posts: 5201
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Your mothers loss not yours or your daughters. Defender TD5 90 ---/--- Peugeot 306 HDI hatch back Success is 90% Inspiration and 4 minutes Preparation # you can make it! |
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10th Jun 2023 1:47am |
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